My Take On Relationships

Hey there,

Let’s talk RELATIONSHIP.

I don’t think I’ve ever written anything about relationships before, well, there’s a valid reason.

I’m not a lover girl.

Don’t get it wrong, I believe in love, cos I believe in God and God is love.

But when it comes to human-to-human relationships, especially in this world and age…. I have questions.

Nonetheless, let’s talk relationships.

Recently, I’ve had people give me their take on how I treat people and what it should be instead.

It’s cool, everyone is entitled to their opinions after all.

I’ve also had my opinions about how people act in relationships but don’t take my word for anything, in reality, I’m inexperienced in the matter.

But I’ll still drop my opinion, so here it goes…

Often I’ve seen clips, be it in comedy form or whatever, where a guy would be on his phone, and his girl, seated next to him, stretches her neck to peep into his phone to know what he’s doing, who he’s texting.

People have tweeted a lot about “if he’s not texting you, best believe he’s texting another girl” or “if your man goes a day without talking to you, he’s cheating”, and a lot of other things in this line.

Like I said, people are entitled to their opinions, but…

Why would you immediately assume there’s foul play based on cheap evidence the internet presents?

Hell, there could be 10,000 reasons why he’s not texting you and texting someone else or why he’s stayed a whole day without communicating with you. Yeah, could have been in an accident, have you checked the hospitals, or filed a missing person report???

Ok, maybe too extreme, but why has one person got to do most of the work, or why does it always have to be because “he’s cheating”?

I’m not disputing that the assumption might be the case in reality, but the truth is also, just because it is the case for one person or many people, doesn’t mean it’s the case for all.

There have been a lot of takes on the internet lately on relationships. They’ve talked about simping, betrayal, cheating, bringing stuff to the table and all of that. Hell I’m giving my take now.

Here’s the thing tho, unless you don’t wish to commit at all to whoever you’re dating, you can’t always feed on people’s take and expect to have a successful relationship.

You can’t always suspect your partner is cheating on you and expect to have peace in your relationship, because you won’t be at peace, so you’ll transfer your anxiety on them, one way or the other.

The few times, twice actually, that I have found myself in relationships, one could say I was indifferent about my partner’s deeds.

Not that I didn’t care to know what they were about, I just didn’t bug myself with it. I took what they told and acted accordingly.

Now you’re saying “Believe a man’s word to your peril”

True, but I won’t because of a man’s life, restrict myself from my personal peace.

Was it easy?

Not exactly. There are times the thought of infidelity would flash in my mind, but I ignore it. Not because of trust now, I barely trust people, but because I want to be at peace with myself.

So sometimes, what really makes a relationship work isn’t trust, but choosing your peace of mind.

Now you’re saying “In choosing your peace of mind, they may just be making a fool out of you”

Yeah, but that’s their problem.

My take on relationships is this, if you wish to stay committed to your partner, you need to find your peace in believing and seeing only what is there, and not what you assume is there.

But you’ll do whatever you want after all.

I hope you enjoyed reading this and I’d want to know your take(s) on relationships if you’ve got any.