“What Do You Bring To The Table?” : The Pandemic Of Selective Civilization.
Yesterday, a friend of mine made a post on her WhatsApp status, trying to address the "what do you bring to the table" talk between couples.
I've made it known, twice now, that I don't like to talk about things I know nothing about, but somehow I do a good job at it, so let's goooooo.
I've randomly come across videos or texts where people aired their opinion about this topic and I've been able to deduce my opinion on it.
But you know the drill, what I say doesn't have to affect what you know or believe.
As far back as ages known, the role of a man has been to provide and protect, while women care and love.
While the man speaks for the family, the woman manifests his capability by the way she looks and the way she makes her home look.
On the table, the man is the voice, and the woman the flower.
But this was as far back as BC (before civilization).
Now women want to speak at tables, they want to be equals with men, they no longer believe that they're from Venus and men from Mars.
They. Want. A. Spot. At. The. Table.
So it baffles me when the question is asked "What do you bring to the table" and the women are the most triggered ones.
You wanted a spot, you wanted a voice, now you're given that…you're nagging about how it's an inappropriate question????
Be for real.
Don't get me wrong, I don't believe it's an appropriate question, given that I don't believe men and women can ever, and even if it can, should ever, be equals.
But…what do you bring to the table?
Different women have different answers to this, but I've noticed 2 famous ones.
The first one, sex, a complete turn off so we won't even give it the time of day.
The second, and I particularly find this funny, is food, love, care and attention.
"Why do you find it funny?"
Well, isn't it funny how we're selective when it comes to civilization, or as you may like to call it, "being woke"?
One minute we want to be equals and the next we want to go back to the time when our mothers were flowers on the table.
"Wait, why are you not talking about the men, what they bring to the table?"
Because….from the beginning of Genesis, it was bestowed on them to always provide, so talk about it or not, it's stamped on them "This is what you bring to the table".
They don't have to think about it, they have that easy for them.
We on the other hand… Well, before you start talking about wanting to talk, you better have what you want to say, and it better not be stupid, unless you want to be a new sound for a TikTok challenge.
Now let's not forget that there are women who are just solely in a relationship for love, genuine love, but one day, because their partner saw one of Andrew Tate's videos that I wouldn't agree with, he comes up to her in a random conversation and just blurts out "what do you bring to the table?"
Or some men who even use it as a first date question.
Like, the actual hell!
Whether she believes in the equality of all or not, that is just plain rude and if she walks out, she's not the fool, you are.
If she attempts to give an answer, don't matter what you think of it, you still remain the fool in the picture.
Cos here's the thing, yeah?
The table is metaphorical, in actual sense, it's not physical, but you know it's there.
So if you're in a relationship, naturally you should know what your partner brings to the table.
If you want to be in a relationship, there's something you saw that must have led you to that person, that's what they bring to the table.
So if you're vividly asking your partner "What do you bring to the table?" you don't know them, you're not in love with them, and you should just call it off already.
It's not the smart question you think it is.
But again, what do I know about these things, righ?
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